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Anonymous asked: Hi. I know of A LOT of people who dislike me for who i am and after many years of trying to make friends, i've still not succeeded and i feel so alone. Is there anything i can do? Or do i just pretend to be someone i'm not so that people will like me more?

Prisz. L answers:

Fat Amy says,”You are not really living if you cannot be 100% honest with yourself.” May i pose back a question to you: Why so?

Yes you may not be able to please everyone, but what’s the underlying problem in this? Does the problem lie on you? Have you been too cranky? Too bossy? Too rude? Too sarcastic? Too sticky? Don’t be afraid to admit, because nothing’s gonna change if even you arent honest with yourself. The key is to smile more. No one likes being near cranky people. Smile and the world would smile with you :)

I always say be yourself, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter wouldn’t mind. But changing yourself to be a better person aint really not being yourself. Step out of your comfort zone and improve yourself. Make the effort to be nicer to people, be appreciative and be proactive. You’ll eventually get so used to being this “nicer someone” that you find it so natural. If you want a change, make it happen! :)

Cheers,
Prisz. L

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Anonymous asked: JUST BROKE UP. I HATE MY LIFE. SUCK TO BE ME FUCK

Prisz. L answers:

Don’t be. Remember, you might have lost someone who do not love you enough. But he/she has lost someone who would have never given up on him/her. It’s his loss. 

He merely led you to meeting greater people in the future. Love yourself. Because if you don’t, who would?

Best wishes,
Prisz. L

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Anonymous asked: Hi Prisz. How am I supposed to let go of someone whom I love a lot and gave everything I had, whom I disappointed, and has now moved on and is also in love with someone else? How do I move on?

Prisz. L answers:

I know your pain my dear. It is so hard to move on. Some people take a few weeks, some takes months, others take years to heal a broken-hearted. It depends on how strong you are emotionally, and emotional strength is not by choice. Also, it may vary from situation to situation.

What i can suggest is for you to go out and meet more people. Get yourself some new friends and open up your heart when you are ready. Immersed yourself with happy people and happy things so you do not keep looking back on your past relationship.

The more you try to fight down an emotion, the more its gonna hit you hard in your face. So don’t suppress your emotions. Shout it you want, cry if you must. Allow yourself to feel upset (because who wouldn’t be after a breakup), but after that, pick yourself up and keep going forward. Remember, it’s okay to not feel okay my dear :)

Lesson learnt: Cherish the people you love while you still can. Don’t ever take anyone for granted. 

I know it’s gonna be difficult, but hang tough my dear. I believe you are stronger than you think you are. And tell yourself - the best has yet to come! :)

Take care,
Prisz. L